How to get away with it

For future reference, Amanda Taub's five step process for invalidating anyone who tries to call you on your bullshit:

Step 1: Claim that the complaint is an exaggeration in order to imply that the complainant can't be trusted
Step 2: Dismiss demands for respect and equality as mere "political correctness"
Step 3: Insist that this complaint is too minor to bother with when there are more important things to worry about
Step 4: Say it was just "fun"
Step 5: Pretend the complaint is really just about personal animosity

From this essay.